When it comes to self-care, it may feel that we are wasted effort. Learning how to prioritise ourselves can seem like we are being selfish. So many of us are taught from an early age that being selfless is good, and while there are many benefits to this, we have to remember there are times in life where we have to prioritise ourselves. What does it take to make sure that we engage in self-compassion and hold ourselves in high regard? But also, why do we need to prioritise ourselves?
The Gift of Loving Yourself
When you start to look at the things that you really love in life, and give yourselves these things, it is the most perfect way to recharge yourself. Some people indulge in a spot of retail therapy, but others take up a hobby and dive deep into it. And whether you like to buy luxury mechanical watches or you play the guitar, the great thing about these little practices is that our family and friends will see us at our most happy and content. And when we are this happy, it helps everybody else. Think back to those days when you were a child, and it was your birthday or Christmas morning. It was the best feeling in the world. And it’s important to get back to that sensation.
The Importance of Recharging
When you feel you have nothing to give the world, when you’ve run out of things to talk about, or you feel completely drained, learning how to recharge in the right ways gives you the ability to power down. You may feel that you run out of things to talk about, and taking time away to watch new shows, new books, and absorb more information can help you to give more out to the world. When we feel depleted energy, we have nothing to give. And when we fill our time with the needs of others, rather than ourselves, it doesn’t just deplete our energy, but it depletes our enthusiasm. Recognising that you have to step back and learn new things, or just power down for a month will give you that opportunity to feel more like yourself. You will know when it works because you will feel your energy stores recharged, but also have that enthusiasm again. And you can do this by stepping away and prioritising rest over anything else.
Learning To Check In With Yourself
Sometimes, we can give ourselves over to the critical inner voice. And when we listen to this inner critic, but, more importantly, believe them, this stops us from losing track of what is important. It’s a journey that can take a while to change. But you can undergo talking therapies, or learn to silence that inner critic by using numerous techniques like positive self-talk or meditation. But more importantly, checking in with yourself allows you to prioritise yourself. It doesn’t need to take long, but the important thing is that you do it every day.